Faceless People

I’m sitting in a café walled on one side by windows from floor to celling. Surprisingly I’m having a hard time seeing my computer screen because of the streams of sunlight coming through the windows. It feels good for the left side of my body to be hot from direct sunlight.

Strangely enough as people walk down the street next to me I cannot see any of their faces. The bar that runs the length of the wall of windows just happens to block my view of the face of every single person that walks by. So I stare out the windows at a faceless people. I was struck by the fact that as far as I was concerned these people had no identity without a face. Bodies without faces are nobodies. Had my wife changed her clothes she could have walked by and I would not notice. The mayor could have just passed and I’d never know the difference…all because I can’t see their face.

The Internet is a dangerous place for dialog because we cannot see people’s faces. Yes, maybe we have an icon that represents that person, but the person we’re actually in dialog with is a figment of our imagination. They are fictitious in every way as much as The Social Network’s take on Mark Zuckerberg is fictitious.

In life and online we prefer to deal with icons. Rather than making space to listen to you, to allow you to inform me about yourself I have preconceived ideas of who you are and what you’re about. An icon. We prefer to deal with representations of people than real people. Real people are complex while icons are simple.

My hope is to find enough peace and courage within myself to allow you to be a person in the fullest sense of the word. Yes I’ll still have my preconceived ideas about you, but am I willing to lay those down and allow relationship to reveal your face? For the love of Facebook I hope so.

Can a Boy Like the Color Pink?

I enjoyed a discussion last night at my children’s school classroom meeting. The parents were brought up to date on the discussions that were happening in the classroom and we were then invited to engage in a similar discussion amongst the parents in small groups. The topic was discrimination with an emphasis on men’s and women’s prejudice. Can a boy wear pink, can a girl be Spiderman, can a boy play princess, can a girl play football? The children were making these distinctions and were discriminating based on their judgements about what boys can or cannot do (and vice versa with the girls).

The two questions that they asked the parents to discuss were “growing up, what things were you taught were only ‘boy’ things and only ‘girl’ things?” and “what gender specific things do you want to pass on to your child?”

I was surprised at how hard the second question was to answer. Most everything I came up with was actually gender neutral. If I said that I wanted to train my son on how to treat/date a woman/wife with respect is that not just a tangent on the gender neutral idea of learning to value, love, and respect humanity? If I said I wanted to train my son to be a leader would I not see it valuable to train my daughter similarly (especially since she seems to evoke strong leadership qualities even at the age of three)?

Miroslav Volf in his amazing book Exclusion and Embrace suggests that we have very little to differentiate gender roles aside from the body itself. Essentially, according to Volf, we teach our children how to be healthy, whole, loving human beings over and above the gender distinctions that our culture currently buys into.

I’m intrigued to find out what many of you think. Can you identify gender specific elements that you’d like to guide your children into?

Is he dead?

I refuse to do research to confirm or deny the following allegations. But I’m pretty sure the following famous people have passed away:

  • James Earl Jones–He was seventy-five in Field of Dreams.
  • Willie Nelson–Either he has passed or his hair has…or, it might be that they’re actually the same thing.
  • Ringo Star–Someone tried to convince me with actual evidence that Ringo is still alive. I obviously did not believe them.
  • Dustin Diamond– This is a foregone conclusion. How long can one live without the love of his life?
  • John Matuszak— The only way this guy’s career wouldn’t take off after his star performance in Goonies is if he passed away shortly thereafter.

As for me and my house, we will vote for Basil

This is simply amazing. If it is a joke…its the best I’ve ever seen. If it’s not a joke (and it isn’t) it’s the best I’ve ever seen.

Check Basil’s website out, notice some of the following quotes (I have left spelling and grammar as the author wrote it):

Make sure that if national insurance is put in place, I will make sure the roots of such bill with not inclued any type measuring of the waist like other counties.

Vote for me and if I win I will immune you from all state crimes for the rest of you life!

I believe we must hate the U.S. Flag because we fly the wrong one and when we fly the right one we and the government fly it wrong.

The right too bear arms against our government and not burglars must be protected

I find it hard to take a campaign fund from anyone because if they give me money they expect something and then they seal it with a hand shack . I think this is bribery
so to keep everybody honest lets put all funds in one bucket, then divide the bucket by cities, counties and state ,then divide those buckets among who ever once want to run and nobody owes anybody.

People Called to stop Slavery at traffic stop they all say county court can not overrule supreme court ,but no-one will help while 1.8 billion is stole by false arrest

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The Curious Case of Belief

There are certain movies and works of literature that make absolutely no effort to create believability. I’m not referring to sci-fi books or movies because even those seem to make an attempt to create a world where certain things (sci-fi type things) are able to happen. The first movie that came to mind was The Curious Case of Benjamin Button. Brad Pitt was born as an old man and slowly over his life aged backwards. He got younger and younger as each year went by. While this movie was about forty-five minutes too long, it was an interesting and enjoyable movie. But in no way (if my memory serves me correctly) did they try to create a sense of believability concerning the unusual story. It just was. I cannot speak for anyone else, but I found that I didn’t care. The point of the movie was not about belief, it was about life. The literary pieces that either assume belief or simply ignore it are in pursuit of a different sort of narrative. They are more about experience and meaning than they are about belief.

In Christianity we have become inebriated with our understanding of belief. We have defined belief as cognitive in nature, as right thinking, pertaining to head knowledge, and relegated to the realm of logic. We have come to agree that Jesus died so that we might believe with this understanding of belief. I believe that our definition of grace supports this fact. Grace, as we speak about it, is available to those who cognitively agree that Jesus is who he said he was etc. etc. In our general teaching if you agree with this fact you can then proclaim that you are saved by grace even though your lifestyle might not look it (the caveat always added in is that if you REALLY ARE saved then you’ll want to follow it up with right actions…but this is nearly always relegated to an asterisk). The assumption here is that cognition is of more value than action. Not equal. The assumption is that belief is a matter of logic, not lifestyle.

I would suggest that the belief that the Bible speaks of is often more focused around the Benjamin Button model. Rarely (Luke’s writings?) does the Bible try to prove itself. Rarely does it try to give evidences in order to support a cognitive centered approach to belief. Instead the focus seems to be on an experience with Jesus/God/Holy Spirit, there seems to be an emphasis on a relational narrative that creates meaning for its participants and observers. Like in The Curious Case of Benjamin Button the Bible often assumes or ignores trying to prove that the story is believable (based on our western definition of belief). Instead its focus is on knowledge of God/Jesus that occurs THROUGH relationship…in other words, experience.

In a very real way it is not one or the other. It is not right action OR right thinking–it is right action AND right thinking. With that said however, I just wonder if Christianity would make a better movie, a better narrative if we spent less efforts trying to be provable and more effort on creating meaning and experience. I can define Biblical love or I can demonstrate it. And while I wish that demonstrating Godly love necessitated biblical knowledge the reality is that at different times I have seen stronger examples of Jesus-love in pools of biblical ignorance than I have in seminaries filled with biblical scholars. If I’m not mistaken, the Old Testament gave us a great system of belief and a black and white system of how to act…and it was hugely incomplete. Instead God decided that intimate experience and relationship is where its at. My guess, however, is that right living will not sustain itself for very long, or stay on track very well without its pairing with right thinking.

I’ve been holding this post in “draft” purgatory for nearly  a week now trying to figure out how to end it. If our ways of defining grace only builds off of right thinking then we’re not creating balance, we’re not being honest about our commitment to both right thinking and right living. But swinging completely the other direction will not sustain itself, nor will it keep its focus on the right thing.

In the end I think we are invited to experience God holistically. We are invited to experience his grace and mercy with our whole selves. With our minds, our hands, our hearts, our…everything. If our foundation is Matrix-like, trying to prove believability then I think we’re missing something. Knowing about God does us little good if it does not translate into knowing God. Movies like The Curious Case of Benjamin Button or Encino Man create an experience that has little to do with cognitive believability and everything to do with experience.